DEGREE OF DECIDEDNESS SCORE:

Degree of decidedness refers to how close a person is to making a decision. Your Degree of Decidedness can be viewed on a spectrum divided into four possible levels:

* You are completely decided.
* You are somewhat decided.
* You are somewhat undecided.
* You are completely undecided.

Your Degree of Decidedness Score has been calculated according to the way you have sorted the items today. Based on your B-Sort today the following may apply:

You are inclined to remain undecided. Heads up! It is important to realize that deciding to remain undecided is an actual decision.


AWARENESS OF SELF SCORE:

Awareness is about knowing yourself. There are many ways of knowing yourself. For example, you can know facts about yourself, such as your height, weight, age, race, order of birth. You can also know about preferences such as what you like to eat, what you like to do and where you like to go. For our purposes here, we are concerned about how you can know yourself through knowing your wants, needs, feelings, standards and values with respect to your relationship dilemma.

The degree of self awareness varies from person to person. It also varies within a person over time. Sometimes you will know yourself better than other times. You probably have experienced this in the past.

The B-Sort takes the full range of Awareness of Self and divides it into the following four levels:

* You have an extremely high level of awareness of self. You can feel very confident in your decision-making.
* You have a high level of awareness of self. You can feel confident in your decsion-making.
* You have a moderate level of awareness of self. Increasing your awareness of self will help you reach a high quality of decision.
* You have a low level of awareness of self. Increasing your awareness of self is necessary to reach a high quality of decision.

Your Awareness of Self Score has been calculated according to the way you have sorted the items today.

Factors Contributing to Awareness of Self:

Emotion

Your feelings are significantly undifferentiated which means that you have different feelings that are combining together so that you don't know what they are. Undifferentiated feelings can interfere with making a good quality decision.

You often feel despair about your life. Seek professional help. You need support to deal with your feelings of despair. Reaching out to use the resources in your community is a healthy action.

Self Interruption

You are blocking your emotions to some extent. If your feelings are blocked that is, you are not clear what you feel, your ability to make a good quality decision is impaired.

Negative Self Regard

You do not appear to have significant negative feelings towards yourself. That's good.

You are not strongly judgemental about yourself. This makes it easier for you to know what your heart wants and needs.

'Head' overrides 'Heart'

You are somewhat aware of the struggle within yourself.

Your standards and values do not significantly conflict with your wants and needs at this time.

Overly focused

Hurting others: You are overly concerned about other people's feelings. This level of concern may put you in danger of over riding your own best interests.

Opinions of Others: You have a tendency to worry too much about what other people may think.

'Head' and 'Heart' deadlocked

Good news! You believe you are able to take positive action in regard to your relationship dilemma.

Harsh treatment of your self does not seem to be a problem for you right now.

Backing off

Bad news! You don't yet realize that you are really a better person than you think you are. Self-criticism impairs your ability to make a good decision.

You are easing up on yourself. Yes! Easing up on yourself is essential to reaching a good resolution.

'Heart' emerging

You are aware of some wants and needs that you are missing in your relationship.

You are striving to meet your wants and needs. Choosing not to give up is very positive.

Your Heart's wants and needs are important to you. This is helpful.

You recognize that your wants and needs are worth fighting for. This is positive.

You value your feelings. Good!

You have an increased trust in yourself. Very positive!

Your deeper feelings are not yet clear to you. Discovering what they are will lead to a better perception of your dilemma.

You have a need to be out of this relationship.

You have not yet become clearly aware of your deeper feelings.

You value your feelings. This is very helpful in your decision-making.

Self Effectiveness

You do not yet have a strong sense of self effectiveness. This hampers your decision-making.

Great! You believe that no matter what you do, you will be OK.

New sense of self

You have not yet achieved integration of Head and Heart. This means that you have not yet begun to develop a new sense of self.

Feeling good about the Decision

You have not yet made a decision that you feel good about.



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